Now, I know what you are thinking, romance novels should be mostly used for your private time. There are plots, characters and sexual exploits that can tend to make you feel more than a little flushed. But, honestly, that is exactly the reason why you should consider sharing your literary interests with your partner. There’s no need to be shy about it. You have sexual needs and so does he. That’s why a romance novel can be the perfect way to create an open door on your desires and start the communication you need to enhance your sex life.
Good girls can read naughty books
So, you may have heard the stereotype that smart girls do not read romance novels. Well, not only is that an unhealthy lie but it certainly won’t help with your love life. Smart girls read everything that they can and should not be ashamed of it. If you do not want to search the internet for pornography, and instead want to indulge in your literary side then this is the best way to get your erotic fix.
Spark your erotic imagination with your stories and bring your partner along for the ride!
Why should you read erotic stories?
Well, first and foremost, it’s fun to read sexy stories. Yes, most of them are a bit mushy and do pander towards overly dramatic plots but they spark the imagination and can create some fantastic bonding time between you and your partner. So, just relax, set the mood with a few candles, get a bottle of wine ready and sit back and relax as you read out your favourite story, or listen to it on audio tape. Here are the top reasons why you should start up some daily romantic reading session with your partner.
Inspiring romantic fantasies
Let’s say that you’ve opened a book and it’s all about a beautiful woman who works at Manchester’s longest-serving escort agency. Shock, she meets a client who she desperately falls in love with and he fulfils her every naughtiest desire. Sounds exciting, right? Well, it’s not normally a situation that happens every day. But it’s sexy, fun and something that you can talk about with your lover.
With the world’s diverse array of reading material at your fingertips, you and your partner have a million fantasies to play around with. Who knows, you may even want to start roleplaying out some of the characters you meet in your novels during your own intimate moments together. Overall, reading erotic novels are a great way to add to your own sex life.
Obviously, for any sort of romantic relationship, communication is essential between both parties. Whether that is to solve problems between you and your spouse, to come to an agreement on questions or just to communicate your likes and interests, a romantic novel is a great way to emphasise your communication and any needs that you want to be fulfilled by your lover. Take a look at the characters in the novel and observe their pitfalls and successes. You can use the lessons learnt by the characters in your own life. Listen to the morals of the story and make sure to use them in your love life. Who knows, the advice might just be the key to strengthening your relationship.
Encouraging healthy sex
One of the worst things that you can do is tell a couple that sex is bad. Of course, it is not. It is an expression of love and devotion. That’s why it shouldn’t just be a chore. It should be fun, exciting and make you basically fall into each other’s arms. Not only do the stories show you how to be respectful during sex, and help learn important sex lessons, for instance, safe words during BDSM, but it encourages you to explore your body and find out what you like and do not like. Better yet, these sorts of books encourage you to explore your bodies together and find out about each other. What could be more fun than that?
The most important thing that you can learn from blogs is in relation to not repressing your urges. This can be extremely unhealthy and it can lead to you feeling depressed. Don’t allow yourself to fall into the trap of avoiding sex altogether. Instead, release your inhibition and simply enjoy yourself with a good book and your partner.
Now, one common thing that romance haters love saying is that “romance gives people unrealistic expectations about love and sex.” Whilst novels like 50 Shades of Grey might do that, they couldn’t be more wrong about the rest of the genre as a whole. Just because you read mushy novels that have happy endings, fast-paced romances and over the top love stories does not mean that you know how to handle your own relationship. Quite the contrary, it will give you love goals for you to strive for. Your love life isn’t going to be a fairytale, it will have ups and downs, but this is what makes romance novels so sweet to share. They give a moment of peace and the hopes that you both can find your own happy not-so-perfect ending together.
Quirky date night ideas
Having a date night doesn’t mean that you have to get dressed up and go out to a fancy restaurant or a crowded club. If you are looking for some intimate time with your partner, why not centre it around reading a romantic novel? Yes, you can just sit on a chair and cuddle together. But if you want to make some true romance, set the scene for it! Run a hot bath full of rose petals or bubble bath. All you need then is some soft music, candlelight wine and a box of chocolates. Voila! The perfect sensual moment to enjoy your favourite erotic novel together. It’s a simple idea but it will give you some quality time that you may not have got if you just went out to a cafe. Indulge in some privacy together and enjoy yourself.
What’s your favourite naughty novel?
Let’s face it. We all have our dirty little secrets. But if your secret is reading erotic stories then that deserves to be shared with your partners. Don’t feel shy or scared. Reading a romantic or erotic novel together is a great way to spend time and learn about each other in a whole new and intimate light. Spend some time together and enjoy the romantic ride. You won’t regret it.
So, what is your favourite romantic novel? Let us know your top titles now!