We can all agree that having sex is one of the best feelings in the world. Whether it’s a random hook-up or with your life partner, simply nothing beats the feeling of having sex. Besides feeling great, sex is further good for your health as well. So, what could possibly be better?! But although most of us may think having sex is simple and straightforward, we still make a lot of common mistakes in bed that can truly ruin the mood.
When we’re talking about common mistakes in bed, we don’t mean actual mistakes in performing the act of sex itself. After all, good sex highly depends on your personal taste and sexual preferences. No, when we talk about common mistakes in bed, we’re talking about larger and more general mistakes that people make in bed – little things that can turn an exciting evening into an awkward encounter. Below, you’ll find a list of the most common mistakes we all make in bed from time to time. And of course, we’ll also add in some tips and tricks on how to avoid them in the future.
- Not Being Honest
From time to time, we all wish that we could read people’s mind. This is especially the case with your partner when you’re on a date or having sex. After all, nobody wants to disappoint the person they love – especially not in the bedroom! As of such, being honest with one another is extremely important when it comes to sex. This honesty is not only related to the type of sex itself, but also to topics such as what you’re looking for in a sexual relationship.
Remember, a person’s sexual taste is personal and everybody likes something else. Whereas some may enjoy being touched by hands, others prefer oral sex. And where some may enjoy a casual and ordinary sexual encounter, others like to be kinky and involve some toys such as a realistic dildo or vibrator. Make sure that you are honest with each other so that you both know what kind of sex you enjoy. Only like this, you can avoid misunderstandings and turn your evening together into an exciting and unforgettable sexual adventure.
- Not Taking the Lead
As mentioned above, everybody loves to be touched in a different way. As of such, it’s difficult to know what your (new) partner really likes. Therefore, it is very important not to be shy when it comes to taking the lead when making out with your partner for the first time. Simply grab his hand and guide him to touch you in the way you like. Not only will this feel better for you, but it also teaches him how to please you which, in turn, makes him feel more confident. By teaching your partner how to touch you in the right way, both of you are guaranteed to enjoy your time together a whole lot more!
- Lacking Confidence
If you do not feel confident about your body, it is nothing to worry about. In fact, there are many people out there who do not feel confident about their bodies or sexual performance. The truth is, most people do not see themselves as beautiful as we always like to see the negative parts that need improvement. This is completely normal, however, it should never become a burden to your sex life. If you do not feel happy or confident about your body, make sure not to show this to your partner. Remember, just the fact that he or she wants to share the bed with you most likely means that he finds you irresistibly sexy the way you are. As of such, there really is no reason to feel insecure. If you really do not feel comfortable, you can always have sex with the lights off. However, we would simply advise you to stop worrying, have some fun, and let yourself go!
- Losing Attention
Becoming distracted happens to the best of us from time to time – even during sex. Sometimes we just can’t help ourselves and our mind just wanders off to something else. This can be related to stress at work, an important ongoing project, or trouble in your private life. There are many things both big and small that may distract us and totally ruin the mood while having sex. The truth is, however, that if you really wish to enjoy the sex, you should focus on the act itself and try not to think about anything else.
Of course, we know that it can be difficult form time to time to turn off your mind and forget about everything that’s going on around you. Therefore, we have the following tip. While you’re sharing the bed with your partner, try to focus on each touch and sensation that you’re feeling on your body while having sex and being touched. While doing so, narrate them to yourself by thinking things like ‘’oh, he just made my spine tickle by kissing my neck’’. When you do this, you’ll be able to fully enjoy the moment without being distracted – allowing you to experience much better sex than ever before!
- Being too Loud or Quiet
Every person who has ever watched online porn before knows that actresses love to make loud sounds. However, the truth is that we normally do not make such sounds in reality when sharing the bed with our partner. In fact, faking a loud orgasm is, to many guys, one of the worst things when it comes to having sex. On the other hand, it’s also not nice to have a partner who makes no sounds at all and just lies there like a bag of potatoes. When you’re having sex with your partner, simply enjoy and do what comes naturally. If you like to moan a bit, don’t feel shy. After all, the pleasure of having sex is something that should be shared with your partner, right? Believe it or not, when your partner knows that you’re enjoying, he himself will also enjoy the sex a whole lot more!